Why I Love Lingerie

Although I gave an introduction about myself and it must be pretty clear how much I love lingerie, I wanted to share with you a little of the why– so here goes & I would love to hear your feedback:

Essentially, what I love about lingerie is how it can express a part of you that has nothing to do with what everyone else sees. True, your choice of undergarment affects the look of the clothes on top of it (imagine a bullet bra vs. your classic Victoria’s Secret push-up) but within the most basic guidelines, you do have the potential for a lot of freedom. Your outerwear does work as a way to express yourself, but it is so often circumscribed by the formality of the occasion, your profession, the weather or what you want other people to think of you, while sexy lingerie is a secret, decided entirely by you.

Lingerie is can be a fantasy and the fact that you usually only share it with your partner (or partners) means that it can be a special part of you, a secret self that totally under your control about when and where you reveal it. They’re called “intimates” for a reason, but I think that if you’re the sort of person whose lingerie means something to them, when you show off your lingerie you’re sharing a little bit of who you are as well as your body.

Of course, comfort is also essential when it comes to lingerie– as the layer closest to your skin, discomfort can ruin you day. Wearing lingerie that fits (especially bras!) is essential for taking care of yourself, so stop worrying about whether your size is “too big” or “too small.” Uncomfortable underwear can ruin your day– don’t let it.

This is not to say that you have to be queer to have lingerie or femininity be a key part of your identity or that lingerie is essential to true femininity– just that, for me, it helps remind me of my independence of what people say and what people think. And all my beautiful, frilly, colorful panties and bras are part of a collection that tells me who I am and what makes me feel enteirely like myself.